对于即将步入20多岁的年轻人，最好的建议是什么？_风闻

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Anas Ansari, BCA from University of Lucknow

I live on the 9th floor.

A floor below me, lives a small family of three; father, mother and their beautiful, kind-hearted, 15-yo daughter, Alina. I don’t know her personally or have ever talked to her. But everyone in the building knows her. Even our watchman calls her by name. That’s how I came to know her. She greets everyone. She loves planting flowers. She plays with every kid in the building. She is the kind of girl who will not have enemies, ever ! I hope so.

Usually, I return home by 8 and I always see her, in school dress, in the lift. Always Upbeat!

Yesterday, after doing a long, boring night-shift, I came home at around 11 in the morning. I entered the lift. I realized I won’t be seeing her today. Smiling, I went to my room. Slept.

An hour later, the cook, came hurriedly, woke me up in shock, saying, “Bhaiyya, wo 8th floor waali ladki balcony se gir gayi!!”. ( Sir, the girl on 8th floor fell from her balcony. )

I ran towards the lift. In the lift, I was praying, “Please, God !! Let that news be false!!” I was begging.

As I reached ground floor, there was a huge crowd. My heart sank. They were taking her to the hospital. I just got a glimpse of her ‘Pooh’ hair clip. It was swinging down on her hair end. I was devastated.

After an hour, her body came, as she had lost a lot of blood. Her mother was in shock-silence. Her father was crying like a baby. He would try to stand but couldn’t and collapsed on the floor. I had never seen anyone cry like that in my life.

我住在九楼。

在我楼下，住着一个三口之家，父亲、母亲和他们美丽善良的15岁女儿艾莉娜。

我不认识她，也从来没有和她说过话，但是大楼里的每个人都认识她，甚至我们的看门人也会叫她的名字，所以我才认识她，她向每个人问好，她喜欢种花，她和这栋楼里的每个孩子玩，她是那种永远不会有敌人的女孩！我希望她继续如此。

通常，我八点回家，我总能看到她，穿着校服，乘着电梯，总是很开心！

昨天，在一个漫长又无聊的夜班之后，我上午11点左右才回到家，我走进电梯，我意识到我今天见不到她了，我微笑着回到我的房间，睡觉。

一个小时以后，厨师匆匆赶来，惊醒了我，他说 : “Bhaiyya, wo 8th floor waali ladki balcony se gir gayi!!

( 先生，8楼的女孩从阳台上摔了下来！！ )

我朝电梯跑去，在电梯里，我祈祷着，“ 求求你，上帝！告诉我这个消息是假的 ! ”我当时在恳求着。

当我到达一楼时，周围一大群人，我的心沉了下去。

他们正送她去医院，我只瞥见了一眼她的发卡，发卡在她的发梢上荡来荡去。

我崩溃了。

一个小时后，回来的是她的尸体，她因失血过多而死。

她母亲震惊得一声不吭，她父亲哭得像个婴儿，他想站起来，但站不起来，倒在地板上。

我这辈子从没见过有人哭成这样。

In the evening, I came to know the saddest part:

She hadn’t fallen.

Someone had seen her jump from the balcony.

Then came the whole story.

She wasn’t good in one of the subjects. Her parents used to scold her. She had failed in her exams. Her teacher had punished her. He used to insult her in front of class. She was told that she wasn’t the child her parents were expecting as they both were well educated and always a step up on path of life . She had ruined her family’s reputation. The day she died, her parent (I’m not sure if mom or dad) didn’t speak to her at all.

She was getting emotionally tortured by her loved ones and teachers, everyday. She couldn’t cope with that. She found it easier to end her life.

At night, I went to their home. People were there in silence. The only voice I heard was of her father. He was asking for her forgiveness. Repeatedly. His wife was consoling him to get up from there.

He said, “ Nahi. Aaj baat kar lene do meri gudia se. Kal chali jayegi. Uth jao, beta. Please uth jao. Alina. Alina!”. ( No. Let me talk to my doll, today. Tomorrow she’ll be gone. Please get up, my princess. Please get up. Alina. Alina ! )

He started crying as if he had lost his world. And I knew he had. I couldn’t control my tears any longer and came outside.

. . .

到了晚上，我才知道最悲哀的部分：

她并不是摔下去的。

有人看到她从阳台上跳了下来。

然后就有了整个故事。

她有一门功课学得不好，她的父母经常责骂她，她在考试中失败了，她的老师惩罚她，经常在班级面前侮辱她，她被告知，她不是她父母所期望的孩子，因为父母都受过良好的教育，在生活的道路上总能更上一层楼，她毁了她家的声誉。

她死的那天，她的父母（我不确定是妈妈还是爸爸）根本没有和她说过一句话。

她每天都被她的亲人和老师折磨得情绪低落，她无法承受这些，她发现结束自己的生命更容易一些。

晚上，我去了他们家。

大家都沉默不语，我听到的唯一声音是她父亲，他在请求她的原谅，一遍又一遍…..

他的妻子在安慰他，让他从那里起来。

他说：“Nahi Aaj baat kar lene do meri gudia se. Kal chali jayegi. Uth jao, beta.！”

( 不，让我和我的娃娃说说话，就今天，明天她就要离开了，请起来啊，我的公主，请起来吧，阿琳娜，阿琳娜！)

他开始哭，仿佛他失去了整个世界。

而我知道他的确失去了世界，我再也无法控制我的眼泪，我走到了外面。

……

If you’re a teenager,

Please do not end your life just because someone scolds you. Just because you failed in one subject. Forget one subject. If you have never passed a single exam. Its still not worth ending your life. Your parents love you. Its just that they sometimes cannot understand that Failure is also a step towards success.

Please. Please. Please. I beg you. Never end your life. Whatever the reason is. Talk to someone you can share. Come online there will be many people to help you. Come to me. I’ll be happy to help you. Everyone will. Trust me. Oh please, Trust me!

Please don’t end your life. I will not be able to bear losing any other Alina.

Your parents will love to hear “I love you, mom/dad” from you.

. . .

如果你是一个青少年。

请不要因为有人责骂你就结束你的生命，不要仅仅因为你有一门课不及格就结束你的生命，忘掉这门课，哪怕你从来没有一次考试及格，它仍然不值得结束你的生命。

你的父母爱你，只是他们有时不能理解，失败也是走向成功的一步。

求你了/ 求你了/求你了，我请求你，永远不要结束你的生命，无论原因是什么。

和你可以分享的人谈谈，到网上来，会有很多人帮助你。

来找我吧，我很乐意帮助你，每个人都会的，相信我，请相信我 ！

请不要结束你的生命。

我无法忍受再失去一个阿琳娜。

你的父母会喜欢听到你说 “我爱你，妈妈/爸爸”。

……

If you’re a parent,

Why ? Why would you do something like this to your beloved one, your prince(ss). What would be the need of high, esteemed qualifications when there will be no one to celebrate with ?

Don’t you know that a child understands more when you talk or explain them something, lovingly ?

Then why would you do this ?

Talk to them in the purest form of love. They will understand everything.

If you have to show them anger, just do it in limits. But its your duty to talk to your child and explain, in as much warmness as you can, why you scolded them. And an apology would take you places. Trust me.

Please be warm and calm with your kids.

Your kids will love to hear “I love you, my child” from you.

Marks are not everything. They are nothing, actually, as compared to your life.

. . .

如果你是父母。

为什么？你为什么要对你心爱的人，你的宝贝做这样的事，当没有人与你一起庆祝的时候，你要受人尊敬的高学历又有何用？

难道你不知道，当你充满爱意地与孩子交谈或向他们解释时，孩子会更容易理解？

那么，为什么你要这样做？

以最纯粹的爱的形式与他们交谈，他们会理解的。

如果你必须向他们表示愤怒，就必须做到有限度，而你有责任与你的孩子交谈，并尽可能温暖地解释你为什么责骂他们。道声歉会很有作用，相信我。

请对你的孩子保持温暖和冷静。

你的孩子会喜欢听你说 “我爱你，我的孩子”。

分数不代表一切，事实上，与你的生活相比，它们不算什么。